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 Dialogic Spread

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Instructions

If you are playing alone, journal your answers for every step. If playing with a certified coach as a guide, relax and they will take the notes for you.

  1. Pick a challenge in your life—an issue where you feel stuck, challenged, confused, or are seeking breakthrough.

  2. Shuffle the cards and lay down one card, fractal side up, in the spread formation as picture above. The first card represents the “What” in position 1 of the spread. After laying down that card, focus on the fractal image and ask yourself the first question listed below. Repeat this process for all four cards in this spread.

    • Question 1: What is happening with the challenge? What do I observe?

    • Question 2: When does it happen? Cycles or patterns?

    • Question 3: How did it happen and get that way?

    • Question 4: In the context of the previous three answers, who am I? Who do I want to be? Whom do I want to be me with?

  3. You should now have four cards, fractal side up, in front of you. Next, you will flip the cards over in the same order, starting with the “What” card in position 1.

  4. Flip the first card and read it (look up the O-XX1 journey cards as needed). Then ask, “What am I sensing?” Focus on physical senses only—ignoring your thoughts—close your eyes and take deep breaths as necessary.

  5. Flip the second card and read it. Ask, “What do I think?” Take note of whatever flow of consciousness enters your mind.

  6. Flip the third card. Read it and ask, “What do I feel?” Use emotional vocabulary only—not what you think—by saying, “I feel,” with every emotion.

  7. Flip the final card. after reading it ask, “What do I choose?”

Crafting a Statement

Reflecting upon your answers, you will now craft a final dialogic (logic in dialog) statement. This statement is designed to train your brain for joy, peace, and courage.

If I (joy)… then we (peace)… (act of courage)

If I…

Complete this statement with joy—feeling glad to be together in strength and weakness. In other words, it should be a statement you would make whether you feel strong or week.

Then we…

Complete this statement in a way that leads to peace—the cozy feeling that all is right in the world. Think about the people you want to be you with. You should feel peace that you are making the right choice regardless of the outcome.

Act of Courage

After you have tested both statements for joy and peace, define an immediate act of courage that you will take as immediately as possible. We define courage as an act of risking your pride (not looking bad or not looking good).

Examples

  • Statement: “If I accept criticism without getting defensive, then we will come together as a team and do what’s best for the client.”

  • Act of Courage: Call my colleague and ask for feedback.

  • Statement: If I forgive my parents, we can move forward as a family without the guilt and shame of their expectations.

  • Act of Courage: Write a letter taking responsibility for my reactions and bitterness and read it to someone I trust.

  • Statement: “If I ask her on a date, being clear with my intentions, then at least we’ll know how we really feel about each other.”

  • Act of Courage: Pick up the phone right now and ask her out for dinner and a movie.

For Certified Coaches

If this game is played on its own, then end with an acknowledgment or blessing according to your certification training.